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How Writing Helps In Healing #FridayReflections

June 16, 2016 By Esha Mookerjee-Dutta 18 Comments

How Writing helps in Healing

There is no life where there is no conflict. It is an inevitable part of life, and one that often acts as a catalyst to create our stories. We are altered, affected and sometimes even scarred for life, mentally, emotionally and physically by accidents, disappointments, failures, illnesses, bereavements – all of which appear along various stages of our lives, and in ways that baffle us. Sometimes, their impact is felt much longer than we had ever anticipated, colouring our vision and our perspective, and occasionally also interfering with our ability to lead a normal life.

Writing as a therapy

Our varying methods of coping with these painful situations often dictates how we ease our emotional pain over time. While there are many ways of dealing with this, one therapeutic technique that stands apart from the rest in helping us heal in times of confusion, broken hearts, and deepest loss is simple and yet intensely powerful—writing. Expressing one’s deepest thoughts in words and delving into the mind-body connection has been found to be important to not just mental but physical well-being as well.

Last summer, while coping with a series of illnesses and a surgery that was unplanned, I experienced a roller-coaster ride of emotions and health conditions that had left me seriously distressed. I struggled through the first half of the year in ways beyond my means, quietly suffering for months; even slipping into some sort of a depressive state. After a few unsuccessful attempts at self-healing, I discovered the therapeutic benefits of writing and it opened up a perspective on my life. It was a matter of months when I finally began to see the positive changes that I had been hoping for and the calming effect of writing helped to cut my mental and physical wound healing time by a sizeable fraction!

How Journaling helped me

I kept a journal that captured my innermost thoughts and emotions, as I attempted to heal myself. I wrote almost every day and tried to understand my thoughts and fears a little better through my words. It was a slow process of unburdening my innermost feelings in a way that I hadn’t done earlier, but it helped that I wrote every day. In doing so, I was also trying to make sense of it all. The writing would be automatic, intuitive and almost unconscious for me. As time passed, I healed and felt convinced that writing alone had significantly helped me lift my sagging morale and come to terms with my health conditions. Therein, began my first step towards self-healing through writing.

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Writing heals: Validation through research

Over the last couple of decades, numerous studies have been done by researchers on the transformative power of writing. One significant study by Dr James Pennebaker, professor and chair of the Department of Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, shows a correlation between people who had had traumatic experiences and an increased number of health problems. Early on in his career, he wondered what would happen if he brought people into the lab and asked them to reveal the traumas they had kept secret. In his first study, published in 1986, he randomly assigned a group to either write about major upheavals or superficial topics. In the six months that followed, those who had written about trauma visited doctors at much lower rates those who had written about random topics.

Self-reflection in writing makes a difference

Study after study bore out Dr Pennebaker’s thesis that putting negative experiences into words seems to have positive physical and psychological effects. Eventually, he began to see nuances in the way writing helps us heal. One was that those people who are able to make a positive slant in their writing — by using words like “love,” “care,” “happy” and “joy” — appear to benefit more than others. Another important factor was an element of self-reflection in the writing, often manifested through the use of causal words like “because,” “cause,” “effect,” “reason,” “rationale,” or any other word that suggests the writer is trying to make sense of what happened to him or her.  It became clear that putting things together, the cause and effect link – the self-reflection was making a difference. The ability to shift perspective is also key. Standing back and seeing the trauma from different points of view – our own and through the eyes of others. This is when writing helps one heal.

Writing helps make sense of things

Writing helps us in making sense of whatever is happening around us. In a way, when we write things down, the act of putting pen to paper makes it very real and tangible. One can see things with clarity. There are times when speaking about pain becomes difficult. That is also when writing comes to the aid and helps us release our emotions. A blank sheet of paper is all that is needed to capture our most intimate fears, concerns and hopes.

Writing helps us to let go and accept that we may never find answers

By way of exploring our emotions through writing, we can keep all our questions and possible solutions accessible. Our next step forward is driven and directed by time alone. Usually it is after a certain amount of review and reworking that we are eventually able to move ahead.

Writing improves our mental and physical health

The act of writing provides us the opportunity and the space to channelize our thoughts in, and release all those pent up negative emotions, almost to a purgatory effect. Studies have shown that writing about problems boosts our immune system which in turn, improves our emotional health, leaving a positive impact on our lives in a multitude of ways.

Writing our story

One of the many ways of using writing as a therapy is to write for 15-20 minutes on a topic that bothers us—preferably an event or emotion. To share the experience one can even fictionalize it or change the circumstances in order to be comfortable. After all, writing’s power to heal lies not in pen and paper, but in the mind of the writer, say a number of psychologists, who use it with their patients.

For many of us, the starting point of the healing process might be to actually pen down our own story. We may simply want to write the story for ourselves, or craft it as a reference point for others to understand themselves better and move out of the conflict zone. The lasting effects of releasing those pent up thoughts and the sense of relief is a tremendously positive experience – one that many of us can relate to.

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Have you been inspired to tell your story to others? Have you thought of sharing your fears and concerns with others?

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If you are new to Friday Reflections, here’s what it’s about. It’s the end of the week, you’re probably exhausted with work, and all you want to do is sit back, put your feet up, sip on some fancy cocktail or wine, and write away. Sanch and Write Tribe give you writing prompts and all you have to do is choose any one of those prompts to blog about and link up between Friday and Monday. After you link up, be sure to spread the love by visiting other bloggers who have linked up too.

Feel free to add our Friday Reflections badge to your post or sidebar! Follow us on Twitter @FridayReflect and join our Facebook Group. Share your post on social media with the hashtag #FridayReflections.

Since Sanch is located in Australia and a lot of Aussie bloggers join this link up, the post will be up here by Thursday evening.

 

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Prompts for this week

  1. What’s your favourite season of the year? Write a post about that either in the form of an essay or a creative piece.
  2. Go people watching and write an ode to a stranger you see on the street.
  3. Are you a pushover? Do you find it hard to say no? Share your learnings and experiences.
  4. “I am enough” – Brene Brown. Use this quote as an inspiration for your post or within your post.
  5. Picture Prompt  (picture credit http://everydaygyaan.com )

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About Esha Mookerjee-Dutta

A lifelong learner is how Esha Mookerjee Dutta describes herself. She enjoys gliding through life in all its craziness and chaos and curating passing thoughts, experiences and memories on the way.
Esha also dons the role of a mother, wife, daughter, teacher, trainer, management consultant, writer and of course, a blogger!

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Comments

  1. Anita says

    June 19, 2016 at 12:59 am

    Very true. Writing is cathartic.
    Plus, writing has its perks- we earn writer-friends, feedback, support, happiness, sense of achievement…

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    • Esha Mookerjee-Dutta says

      June 19, 2016 at 6:20 pm

      Absolutely, Anita. What we gain, besides the sense of catharsis and relief is the incentive that fuels us to write on. This is especially true of blogging unlike journaling, which is a very solitary activity in itself.

      Reply
  2. Parul Thakur says

    June 18, 2016 at 10:29 pm

    I totally agree. When I started, I wanted to feel better. It was a journey and writing helped me get there. Whether I am upset or happy, writing has become such a beautiful thing in my life.

    Reply
    • Esha Mookerjee-Dutta says

      June 19, 2016 at 6:18 pm

      Yes, I remember you saying this earlier in response to an earlier post. Reading you through the unique situations in each of your posts tells me that you enjoy letting your thoughts shape up your writing! In my humble opinion, I think writing is both a ‘means’ to an end and an ‘end’ in itself too.

      Reply
  3. Carol says

    June 17, 2016 at 6:45 pm

    I completely agree and have been writing my entire life for that purpose. Another form of healing through writing is when I am upset with someone I will write a letter (eMail) but will not send it until my emotions are intact. This prevents me from saying something I may be sorry for if I sent it prematurely. I read it over a few times for a day or so, then I can send it. This way, I can make my point without hurting the other person

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    • Esha Mookerjee-Dutta says

      June 19, 2016 at 6:13 pm

      That’s interesting, Carol. I do that too, at times especially when I need to buy time or sleep over an issue that needs some rethinking. But, yes, writing does help get clarity over one’s thought process.

      Reply
  4. BellyBytes says

    June 17, 2016 at 1:56 pm

    My family considers my blogging an intrusive activity and actually resent the time I spend on it especially since I seem to be going nowhere. But as far as I am concerned, this is one space where I am really me – free to express myself the way I feel fit, without bothering about the intonation ( bothering about the content though) and always learning. Writing in a journal is more private while blogging actually engages a lot of people but you are right about it being therapeutic. Somehow when you write things down, the pain goes away.

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    • Esha Mookerjee-Dutta says

      June 19, 2016 at 6:10 pm

      Very true, Sunita. Blogging and keeping a journal maybe be different, but both, if done with the purpose of “unburdening” oneself may have the same therapeutic element – something many of us have experienced at some point in our lives.

      Reply
  5. prasannakumary Raghavn says

    June 17, 2016 at 11:25 am

    When we write with ‘self reflection’ we are taking responsibility rationally for our own mistakes as well we do not accede to others’ point of view. That’s we’re not going to accept that an accident is caused by bad luck or a curse. Even telling others can sometimes cause problems. So we write it down. We give free expression to what’s going on in our mind and in that process find reasoning and cure. And that’s a great therapy process. I write stories, not journals in which I make a character through whom I express my mind.

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    • Esha Mookerjee-Dutta says

      June 19, 2016 at 6:03 pm

      Writing stories is a very creative way of expressing one’s inner angst…especially through the characters who may embody the thoughts and the actions that one has gone through! Easier than confessing about oneself, I guess! I can see how self-reflection in that process can be both cathartic and therapeutic.

      Reply
  6. Lata Sunil says

    June 17, 2016 at 10:52 am

    Writing on the blog has improved a lot of aspects for me. It has helped fill a void in my life as a result of monotony and no motivation to go through daily life as I knew it then. The learnings have been tremendous but that is another post. I just wish I could focus on writing when I was in school or college.

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    • Esha Mookerjee-Dutta says

      June 17, 2016 at 1:25 pm

      That’s amazing to know! A lot of people find a purpose to their day when they take to writing…especially true of many who are now prolific bloggers! Writing can be the guiding light that paves the path to positivity. Would be lovely to hear about your learnings, Lata. Do share, why wait?

      Reply
  7. Anamika Agnihotri says

    June 16, 2016 at 10:31 pm

    I know this. Writing as a way of healing is what has helped me in discovering my strengths as an individual. I have realised the moment I put my disturbing thoughts to paper, they vanish away leaving me lighter. Having lived a large part of my life, till now, gripped in fear and negative thoughts, I have experienced a sea change now. I fear lesser things now and none at all people and their reactions.

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    • Esha Mookerjee-Dutta says

      June 17, 2016 at 1:17 pm

      We did speak about this, didn’t we? Writing works both as a means and an end in helping us to unravel our innermost cores before others, getting rid of our shackles and embracing freedom that comes only from having a cathartic relief! I think many introverted people have found life a lot more liveable after seeking solace in writing. So, I believe writing heals way better than many other things.

      Reply
  8. Manisha says

    June 16, 2016 at 8:48 pm

    Agree 100%. Writing helps as well heals. When we jot down all our pent up emotions, emotions of every category we find peace and tranquility within ourselves and that pushes us to take life as it comes everyday with enthusiasm, eager to open the hidden secrets , not worrying what is stored for us…. just simply live and love life

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    • Esha Mookerjee-Dutta says

      June 17, 2016 at 1:12 pm

      It does, Manisha! Speaking from experience, I can vouch for that. Writing helps us to unburden without being judged and allows us to find peace within, in order to live happily. Speaking for many of my fellow bloggers, all I can say it it’s also a great stress buster that helps us accept life in totality. Thank you for visiting and sharing your thoughts with us.

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  9. Ramya says

    June 16, 2016 at 8:02 pm

    Agree with you Eesha. Especially maintaining a journal helped me a lot earlier. When i am very angry, frustrated and tired, I love to write. Writing gratitude posts in my blog helped me to gain more positivity in my life and appreciate everything around me.

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    • Esha Mookerjee-Dutta says

      June 17, 2016 at 1:08 pm

      Absolutely Ramya! A journal allows catharsis from painful and difficult times and also allows us to revisit our thoughts later and give us a chance to be grateful! Also a great way to harness our creativity, don’t you think?

      Reply

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