I am a personal blogger. I capture the fine nuances of daily life and blog about them on my blog. It has been two and a half years since I started blogging.
Let me share my journey and why I keep my blogging positive
Writing was the thing I had always wanted to do but the stories kept evading me. With parenting a toddler becoming a daunting task, I found my solace in blogging. There was no longer a dearth of stories. There were hilarious stories, sob stories, travel stories and chances for ranting and venting.
The first year saw me blogging in an isolated corner. There weren’t readers and I did not know how and where to go about finding other mommy and parenting bloggers.
I came across the Write Tribe community at the beginning of my second year which exposed me to a huge universe of bloggers and connected me with them. Reading a wide variety of blogs, staying connected and interacting with other bloggers helped me discover my own writing voice over the course of time.
This voice is of positivity. This voice comes from the desire that my posts leave me and the readers with a good, happy and hopeful feeling at the end.
Two Ways I Keep My Blogging Positive
1. No Ranting
Writing about aspects which are disturbing is a healing exercise and when we blog about our healing it also helps others.
Ranting is different.
At the start of my blogging journey, I ranted a lot on my blog but I realized it seldom helped me getting rid of the negativity. The words I keyed into the blog post would keep revolving in my mind just staying there doing no good causing me to rant more and more. In this process, the non-issues became bigger issues in my head and affected my effectiveness in every role of mine. On recognizing this pattern I resolved to deal with it and decided on a no ranting policy.
Now when I feel low and feel like writing about it, I choose instead to look at the silver lining around me and bring out a positive story. The discussion that happens later in the comment section of the post assures me of my contribution to the positivity in the universe.
It is a pleasure for me to state that I have successfully managed to keep my blog rant-free for the last 6 months.
2. No judging people and their actions
I am a mother and I happen to get judged a lot for what I do or for what I do not do. To say the least I do not like it and this holds true for other people also.
I believe if there is something good to talk about a person, let that person know directly first and if there is nothing good or a flaw or a misdeed which you cannot communicate to that person then there is no point discussing it with other people. The same applies to the blogging space.
The more we discuss or write about the faults and flaws of people, the more we question about the values of other people, the more we move away from positivity.
Do you believe in keeping blogging positive? How do you achieve that?
Anita says
July 12, 2016 at 1:56 amThere’s tremendous power in the written words. They are our reality.
Even I believe that it’s great to be positive and spread positivity in the world.
Dorothee says
July 12, 2016 at 1:41 amFor me, my blog is a place to revisit good memories, and catch those small beautiful everyday-moments that otherwise might go unnoticed. and also, if something different happens, to ponder on that. for the festival of words, i think i will try to catch an unexpected, positive moment of each day.
Vinay Leo R. says
July 11, 2016 at 11:31 pmI like to keep it mostly positive, but in the end, it’s the place where I express myself the most, and if I need to write something out to take a load off of my mind, I don’t stop myself from ranting.
Ankita says
July 11, 2016 at 11:08 pmI have observed that sometimes, I begin writing to calm my racing mind. Such posts begin in a loud and angry tone; however, by the time I wrap up my post, I think about how the hell would my readers find peace with such a rant. That becomes my moment of truth, and I try to end the post on a positive note. Nevertheless, these days I am trying to showcase the ways in which this world is — or could be — a beautiful place.
AuraOfThoughts-MeenalSonal says
July 11, 2016 at 10:18 pmYes positivity is key to writing 🙂
Even my post is of Optimism in Monsoon.
Shilpa Garg says
July 11, 2016 at 10:14 pmI am all for positive posts. They leave you with that happy uplifted, optimistic feeling as well as reduces stress and inspire too!
Erica says
July 11, 2016 at 7:31 pmMy blog started when my daughter was given a rare genetic diagnosis, I blogged to share the info I couldn’t find when I was looking. I blogged about her illness, her death and later the death of my husband. It has been therapy for me in many ways. Though I can’t say I”ve always been positive, I’ve been able to use blogging as an avenue of support for myself and for others to look for ways through times of grief and hardship.
Roshan says
July 11, 2016 at 5:23 pmI used to struggle not to rant during the early years. Looking back, it was an active decision taken to be more positive on the blog… to avoid sharing the conflicts and anger and instead choose happy or poignant thoughts instead. And that really has worked wonders, I must say.
C.TdeF says
July 11, 2016 at 5:15 pmIt’s been proven that being positive is good for your health! Keep it up!
Alana says
July 11, 2016 at 3:51 pmI do try to keep positive. I try to blog about flowers or nature once or twice a week (I have a set day, Wednesdays, for that, in fact) and, for this challenge, have concentrated the last couple of days on raspberries. I also don’t blog that much about family matters.
Ekta says
July 11, 2016 at 2:29 pmIndeed a great read and this inspired me to write my own. the prompt is meaningful and hopefully, I have done a decent writing job.
I do not discourage negativity as long as it helps in bringing positivity at large.
corinnerodrigues says
July 11, 2016 at 8:19 pmEkta – Wondering if you’re taking part in the Festival – this requires posts every day between 10th July – 16th July. If you aren’t, I’m afraid I’ll be deleting your link.
Incidentally, the Festival is theme and prompt free.
Ekta says
July 12, 2016 at 10:19 amYes.
Reema D'souza says
July 11, 2016 at 1:40 pmKeeping the blog positive indeed helps. And I liked the part about looking for silver linings even in the not so good moments and blogging about it.
Esha says
July 11, 2016 at 12:36 pmI think as bloggers whenever we do tend to write about the things that bother us there is a tendency to border on rantings, that take away that element of positivity from a post. I think its okay to have a rant once in a while to unburden oneself, but harping on it is perhaps not the way forward. Good to see you like to focus on positive things. I like posts which talk of a ‘can-do’ approach to things, perhaps because that can lead to solutions that can lift us out of whatever it is that we’re cribbing about.
As a mother, I try and stay positive as often as possible especially when you have little people around you, (with very sharp receptors, mind you!) who are ever-ready to pick up on things coming from you! I’m always mindful of that! 🙂
Nabanita says
July 11, 2016 at 12:14 pmI love your voice that comes across in what you write. And yes blogging helps a lot and maybe more if we try to see the silver lining…there have been times when I have ranted. I think it was more during the first few days of blogging.. but I feel like I’m maturing gradually and rants are slowly getting replaced by introspection. but again, nothing is constant
Subha Rajagopal says
July 11, 2016 at 12:12 pmPositivity breeds positivity.We blog to enrich our lives.So being positive about it is the most natural thing to do while you are blogging
Shweta Ravi says
July 11, 2016 at 12:06 pmVery well said. Ironically posted on a day that I documented a quasi rant myself. But hopefully, I did see something positive at the end of my experience and strive to inculcate that in my life.
P.S – I started the write tribe festival on the wrong day! So typically me…but hopefully will continue
Bellybytes says
July 11, 2016 at 11:04 amI always love your balanced approach to life Anamika and your willingness to share your experiences with others. It requires great courage to acknowledge your failings and even more skill to communicate them without ranting. Airing your feelings even negative ones is therapeutic and often one comes up wit solutions when a problem is articulated . But of course a positive blog that brings a smile is any day better than one that invites pity ….
Ira says
July 11, 2016 at 10:46 amIt is easy to see ourselves at the receiving end and instead of finding a way out we get trapped in it while pondering over it day and night. Ones we are aware of the problem, an efficient solution is the next- step and that is what you did.
Keep inspiring!
Payal Agarwal says
July 11, 2016 at 10:24 amWell said, Anamika. I believe there is something good in every situation, and in every person. When I am upset, I hold on to that goodness. It gives me hope, and keeps me positive.
Kala Ravi says
July 11, 2016 at 9:57 amBeautiful post Ana! I agree, reading something positive is what everyone wants and should actually read. But sometimes, one realizes that one is not writing only for the pleasure of the readers, once-in-awhile venting and sharing your travails also finds empathy. Only making that the core of all your posts could have a debilitating effect on your own psyche. In today’s troubled times, every glimmer of positive thought matters! Shine on 🙂
Mithila Menezes @fabulus1710 says
July 11, 2016 at 9:18 amI feel that we people who have the gift of writing, must use it for the benefit of all people. Posting rants doesn’t make the readers happy, it just makes them feel irritable! And we bloggers have a lot of wonderful ideas to write about, thanks to prompts and all. So why post something negative, when happiness can be easily spread through the press of a button?
Have a great Monday!
Dashy says
July 11, 2016 at 8:55 amRightly said about being judgemental. It does no good to talk good or bad about a person to anybody else. Blogging has helped a great deal to stay positive, writing a personal post without positivity or a solution feels incomplete.
Suzy says
July 11, 2016 at 7:45 amI agree. What we put out into the world we get back, so lets make our messages positive.
Sunaina says
July 11, 2016 at 7:23 amYou give me hope Anamika as I am a mother of two struggling to keep my blog alive and kicking. It is always good to speak about positive things but at times I do talk of the other side too. Ranting isn’t my cup of tea though.
Parul says
July 11, 2016 at 6:36 amWell said, Anamika and I totally agree. Rants is a way of letting those emotions out but too much of that brings negativity. On judging, we need our brain for so many more things. Why waste that resource to judge 😉
Dorothy Johnson says
July 11, 2016 at 6:14 amI agree that rants are helpful to me or others. I avoid writers who do too much of it. I sometimes write about the things that concern me, but I try to move from the concern to a positive answer or way I deal with it. And I always hope to encourage my readers. Enjoyed your thoughts today. Thanks.
Mahati Ramya says
July 11, 2016 at 6:03 amI agree with you Anamika. When we write positive it spreads to the readers. But, we cannot bluff too when we are facing with a lot of issues on personal space. It shows up in writing. I observed that reading and writing gratitude posts made me more positive.